The holidays have passed and, as many readers of this blog already know, my birthday came around (again) last week.
Gift giving becomes more problematic for several reasons when we reach a certain age, despite being still young at heart (isn't everyone?)
There's a few reasons and those include that gifts are not needed or others find it hard to shop for one gift since (a) they don't know what someone wants or needs and (b) he/she may not need anything..
Admittedly, I fall into both of those categories, just ask my husband who, for years, has tried to surprise me with a gift. This year, he thought he had it figured in giving me an American mah jongg set similar to the one shown above as he knows I enjoy playing the game.
The highest sanctioned game score is 245, which was set in1984 and 2011. A perfect 300 game is considered very difficult.
The sports center features 16 candlepin lanes with modern amenities like computerized scoring. As the score sheet above shows, none of us came close to breaking any record.
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| Typical American mah jongg set with tiles, racks, and bag |
Was I surprised?
Yes, but within 24 hours I asked if it could be returned not because his thoughtfulness wasn't appreciated, it was, but that's not why the request was made.
I've been playing American mah jongg for over a year, initially at the local library and also at the senior center where we're members. Both facilities have multiple game sets, that are free to use for playing. There's no need to own a set, although some people own their own game as they play regularly with family or friends when away from either facility.
That's not true in my case. Patrick has no interest in learning or playing this form of mah jongg. Unfortunately, there's no one I know who lives in our apartment building and plays what is a multi-player game. So my gifted game set would have gone unused, essentially collecting dust. This version of mah jongg (unlike Chinese mah jongg) requires the purchase of an annual game card from the American Mah Jongg League, currently $15.
Instead of the game (which was successfully returned) I told my loving spouse that our road trip and meet up with friends in N Conway would be a great gift. He agreed and my birthday was spent candlepin bowling at Saco Valley Sports Center in Fryeburg ME, later dining on delicious Haddock fish tacos for Taco Tuesday. What made the day special was spending it with Patrick and our friends, Jill and Art.
Candlepin bowling dates is a New England-based variation of tenpin bowling that dates to 1880. The 10 bowling pins are narrow (15 3/4-inch tall) and the bowling ball is small and under 3 pounds without finger holes. Unlike regular bowling, players get three balls per frame (not 2), and fallen pins (deadwood) remain on the lane.
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| Candlepin bowling lane with 10 pins and ball |
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| Computerized scoreboard with our names and scores (sigh) |
My birthday outing doesn't mean that no gifts were received. Family and friends gifted me when we returned home to Nashua.
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| Oriental Lillies and carnation arrangement gifted by a neighbor |
Beware when people know you like something. You will received theme gifts. Some of you may recall the penguin puzzle received as a 2025 Christmas gift from family members. They gleefully continued that theme on my birthday and sent these gifts.
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| My birthday penguin |
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| Penguin heat-changing mug goes from b&w to colorful outfits |
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| My personal supply of penguin pens |
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| Penguin parking sign will be staying in our apt |
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| Cards for special occasions & holidays are always put on the bookcase |
So, everyone, that was how I spent my 2026 birthday and surprises received — of course, none were "necessary." That said, ALL were appreciated and fun because who doesn't need more of that in our lives ?










24 comments:
...it was great to see the candlepin bowling. When I was in my teens there was a large bowling center that offered this, duckpin and the bowling that we are accustomed to.
I would have enjoyed the flowers and that mug. All are very sweet gifts, but yes, getting together with friends and family is the best gift of all. Happy Belated Birthday!
I have never played Mah Jong. It sounds interesting. I need to relearn to play backgammon which I haven't played since college but have a nice set I received one Christmas while in college. And ha ha for those penguin gifts. THose flowers are beautiful. And as a native New Englander, the only bowling I like is candlepin. I know a lot of people don't care for it, but I don't like throwing the heavy bowls of regular bowling. It sounds like a good birthday. Hope you have a great 365 (well shy the ones that have passed) days of this celebration. hugs-Erika
We have a vague rule, more a practice than a rule, which is that a gift these days should involve eating or drinking. A nice meal or a bottle of good wine beats one more knickknack to need dusting now and then.
For years now I've firmly resisted giving or getting things. Service is a great gift -- rides for me as a former driver, lunch cooked for me, errands, that kind of thing. And the company of my son or friends, lovely. But not stuff!
Fantastic penguins! and I am glad you had a good outing with friends. One of the best things to do for a remembrance. Enjoy your next trip around the sun. I'm looking forward to seeing photos of your adventures here!
I think I have found a useful VDay gift, but that is just because an idea came to me. Going out for breakfast together would have been enough. In fact, that is the only gift that I will get and that will be fine with me.
I find your bowling interesting. When I was a boy in Montreal, we used to play duck pins. They were ten pins but with smaller balls and pins. When we moved to Ontario, there was the regular ten pins bowling and also five pin with smaller balls, but no duck pins. I liked duck pins more then five pin.
Good morning sounds like you a fantastic birthday! Lovely gifts and loved the penguins too hugs
It definitely gets harder to find gifts as time goes by. I've started giving experiences or something edible.
Happy belated birthday. I have lost most sense of date and time on vacation
Love those mugs which change with the heat! I’ve never seen the like before.
Late happy birthday. You are much loved by many people. wish I could play Candlepin! The penguin mugs are gorgeous! And the parking sign is so cute. I never heard of a game where you have to keep buying cards for it!
Happy Birthday All Year!
Your birthday sounds spectacular.
Candlepin bowling is more fun than the finger bowling ball style. I was horrified the first time I bowled that way.
May
How lovely your 2026 birthday celebrations and gifts were.
Have a great year ahead.
My good wishes.
All the best Jan
Years ago (like high school?) I used to like ladybugs. For every year since, at least one gift from a certain friend has had that theme. Tree decorations, small china pieces, books, wall hangings. You just roll with it. With almost all of my friends now, we have abandoned major present giving and opt for an experience instead. It might be a road trip or a meal at a really lovely restaurant, or a play. We might include a smaller gift, maybe a bottle of wine and a gift card for Trader Joe or similar, or something you can eat. It needs to be consumable, readable, or artistic" if we're going with a gift. There are still two people with whom I do other things, but I love the experiences most.
WHICH is why I'm so glad you had the idea to visit your friends and have such a wonderful day out. That's exactly what a birthday should be!
Lots of fun and games -- active and gifted both -- I loved reading about it all. Maj Jong is a big resort activity here in our winter home ; several friends have tried to interest me but their explanations boggle my mind! They must play the American version as they've told me about buying the annual cards. .... your road trip though, now that would have been right up my alley! Sounds wonderful. Happy belated BD!
What a fun outing! Those onion rings look amazing. Happy birthday!
The candlepin bowling looks fun and the tacos delicious! Like you, I prefer experiences as a gift.
All your penguins are soooooooo cute. Never heard of that type of bowling, but glad you had a good birthday celebration. Hubby and I have stopped gifting to each other. We just don't need anything, and when we do; we buy it. Happy Belated. Pretty flowers.
Sandy's Space
Happy belated birthday, Dorothy! The way you spent it sounds perfect to me.
My husband and I don't give gifts for birthdays or holidays anymore, we stopped that a long time ago. We prefer to go on a trip instead and it doesn't have to be on the day of the birthday. We have way too much stuff anyway, and if we see something that we think would be a wonderful gift, then we give it independent of any birthday or holiday.
We are now giving money for any occasion, birthday, christmas, whatever. It is not my favourite, but I remember receiving cash as a young wife and mother and being delighted, so maybe >>>>>>.
Sounds like a great time. And good move with the mah jongg set. No sense letting it just sit there unused.
I don't know candlepin bowling, but I used to live near a duck pin bowling alley. Never got around to going.
I like the penguin themed gifts. My sister, a longtime cat lover, still gets feline-related presents, even thought she hasn't owned a kitty in a while.
The penguin gifts are charming, and I can tell they brought a lot of joy.
What fun! Love all those penguin gifts.
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